|  EliAdams | May 15, 3:06am | | This was Freud's question. I am INTP. I still do not understand what women want in relationships. I wonder if type provides any insight. I seem to get along best with ENFP women. They can be the most fun. But they can be very selfish too. INTJs are the most difficult for me to get along with. One of them called the police just to be mean at 2am. I was asleep on ambien. The place looked like a doughnut shop!!! ESFPs are just too wild and crazy for me. Talk about bar crawlers!!! I want to go home. They want to flirt with all of the guys in the bar. It is very humiliating. I am curious to hear what everyone's experiences are and if any women will explain what they want. |
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Sponsor |  Thomas-Jefferson | May 15, 9:15am | | Everyone wants something different, but the common denominator is that they nearly all prefer the alpha who provides for their needs, giving them security and stability. |
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Sponsor | | Thomas-Jefferson | May 15, 10:17am | Either way I don't see these myers briggs personality types helping understand them much....
Better to try the Big Five! |
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|  Tara-the-Terror | May 24, 4:36am | 1. Based on what you have revealed in your post: I would offer that MBTI isn't the main issue here. May I say I was surprised to read you are 52 - you come across as lacking in insight, and very judgmental. I found it bizarre that you would readily dismiss an entire group of people soley based on their MBTI because:
"One of them called the police just to be mean at 2am."
Are you kidding me??
Additionally, this "us and them" mentality you have, isn't limited to MBTI. Your post also comes off as somewhat sexist, in turn giving an air of disdain for women in general.
However, despite all this - I can see it isn't malicious. As far as I can tell you really have no idea how you're coming across.
I'm sorry, but this lack of self-awareness, and (what ultimately comes across as) emotional immaturity - lends itself to the conclusion that the cause of your relationship/dating woes being MBTI-related is a tad narrow. In my humble opinion.
However, being an INTJ I get the distinct impression my opinions and I may be shelved lol. |
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| | | InadvertentlyMe | May 24, 7:24am | I would submit that 2 is incomplete in describing needs.
Needs can be anything. And the recipe varies.
Financial, emotional, sexual, spiritual, mental, physical, etc. Stabilty and safety matter. I'd also say that works in reverse. If I don't feel safe with someone, I won't be there long. Guys need to feel safe, too. At least for a long term relationship.
5 - Agreed. |
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| | MrHandyDan | May 28, 4:05pm | | Tough crowd, Eli. I must agree with others that you can't just go with "SWM look 4 a single ENFP." I don't know.... there are different dimensions of security, power, freedom, community, safety, and love that people seem to want to different degrees. |
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Sponsor | | Thomas-Jefferson | May 28, 4:13pm | There are scientific answers to all of this. Women have testable desires. They want a man who is aggressive and confident but also unselfish. They want a man who can provide for their material needs and who has some sort of social status he can transfer onto their young. She also prefers his shoulders to be broader than his gut, and for him to be symmetrical.
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| | Tara-the-Terror | Jun 10, 3:45pm | 8. LOL! "We do??" Wow. This "testable desires" thing is pretty funny. Since when are desires static? It's generalization-a-go-go up in here.
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Everyone has different needs/wants that morph all the time. It isn't an exact science, so I find that "testable desires" somewhat archaic.
Anyone may find the "right one", but the chances that they will be 'right forever' are fairly slim, despite all of our romantic wishes to the contrary. I would say that it takes a lot of 'work', not science, to keep a relationship together over time.
Ultimately, I also find the science aspect humorous because how many of us (scientific/robot personalities included) ever pick someone on what we 'think' is right? I would say a lot of us get caught up in the emotional aspects of the relationship, and go against logic to pursue someone.
How many times have you deliberately ignored red flags, because you're caught up in that early "gooey" phase? (They come back to haunt you later).
I've done it, and I think I'm a complete tosser each time because I "know" better. Being an INTJ, I live in my head - all decisions come from there. The Exception: relationship decisions - they come from this retarded place. When it comes to relationships, I have a logic vacuum. Brain smart: relationship dumb. |
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